If you have a clear conscience and are doing your work with love, others will spit on you and try to make your life miserable. Then, ten years later, you are honored with eighteen doctorates for the same work.
If you do not push this statement aside, but continue to sit and listen, then the dying one will tell you all he wants to share. After the patient dies you will have a good feeling because you may have been the only person who took his words seriously.
You, too, have to know when apporoaching the bed of your dying mother and father, who may be in a deep coma, that this woman or man can hear everything you say. At those moments it is not too late to say: "Sorry," or "I love you," or whatever else you want to say. For these words, it si never too late to say them, even to the dead ones, because they can still hear you. .Even then you can finish "unfinished business" which you might have carried with you for ten or twenty years.
When they die, they will know anyway.
There is proof that every human being, from his birth until his death, is guided by a spirit entity. Everyone has such a spirit guide, whether you believe it or not.
you are simply received by those who meant the most to you.
After you have passed this tunnel, bridge, or mountain pass, you are at its end embraced by light. This light is whiter that white.
During this review of your earthly life you will not blame God for your fate, but you will know that you yourself were your own worst enemy since you are now accusing yourself of having neglected so many opportunities to grow.
Think about the fact that those people for whom you select the most costly Christmas presents are often those people you fear the most, and for whom your feelings are the most negative ones.
If you live well, you will never have to worry about dying. You can do that even if you have only one day to live.
becuase to go to a place that you love is easy. To go to a place where you have every bit of it, is a test.
I identified myself with their misery and their lonelines and their desperation, and suddenly my patients started to talk, even people who didn't talk for twenty years.
but knowledge alone is not going to help anybody. If you do not use your head and your heart and your soul, you are not going to help a single human being. (skip) each one has a purpose.
You will not grow if you sit in a beautiful flower garden and somebody brings you gorgeous food on a silver platter. But you will grow if you are sick, if you are in pain, if you experience losses, and if you do not put your head in the sand but take the pain and learn to accept it not as a curse, or a punishment, but as a gift to you with a very, very specific purpose.
You can finally do the things that you really want to do. How many of you truly do the kind of work that you really want to do from the bottom of your heart? If you don't, you should go home and change your work.
Almost all of my patients are children now. I take them home to die.
The work with death and dying was simply a testing ground for me, to see if I can take hardship, abuse, and resistance. And I passed the test. The second test was to see if I could handle fame. And that didn't affect me, so I passed that too.
But my real job is, and this is why I need your help, to tell people that death does not exist. (skip) Get rid of all your negativity and begin to view life as a challenge, a testing ground of your own inner resources and strength.
You make your own hell or your own heaven by the way you have lived.
Spirituality is an awareness that there is something far greater than we are, something that created this universe, created life, and that we are an authentic, important, significant part of it, and can contribute to its evolution.
why no one can die alone.
"Honey, don't die on me, I can't live without you." So, what we are doing to those patients, is to make them, in a sense, guilty of dying on us.
Shanti Nilaya, mean the final home of peace,
Trying to keep a lid on their emotions in the presence of other family members makes them awfully shor tempered and vulnerable to outbursts of tears for the smallest reason. (skip)
It takes time to heal. It takes time to mourn. (skip) Never judge or criticize anyone who tried to cope with the loss of a parent in his own way. There are coping mechanisms which may work for them that are inconceivable for you.
- '어떻게 죽을 것인가'라는 문제에 대해서 문득 문득 생각하기 시작할 무렵, 슬픔의 위안이라는 책을 읽게 되었고 그 책은 이 책으로 이어졌다. '어떻게 죽을 것인가'하는 문제가 결론적으로는 '어떻게 살 것인가'라는 문제로 귀결된다는 것은 반가운 일이다. Kubler-Ross박사는 죽음을 '끝' 혹은 '종말'로 보지 않고 '변환'의 과정으로 보고 있다. 수많은 death beds의 곁을 지키면서 그녀는 죽음이 존재하지 않는다고 역설하고 있다. 죽음은 단지 애벌레가 나비로 탈바꿈하는 과정에 지나지 않는다는 것이다. 그녀는 오히려 이 죽음이 올 때까지 우리 인생을 어떻게 성장시켜 나갈 것이냐에 오히려 촛점을 두고 있다.
세상에서 가장 무서운 것이 있다면, 모든 공포 영화의 결말처럼, 바로 '죽음'일 것이다. 아마도 그것은 그에 대한 철저한 무지로부터 생겨나는 것인지도 모른다. 그녀의 죽음에 대한 부인에 대해서도 100% 동의하지는 않지만 그녀의 삶에 대한 생각은 100% 동의하는 바이다. 그리고 삶을 떠나가는 사람들에게 어떻게 대해야 하는지 그리고 남겨진 사람들에게 어떻게 위로가 되어야 하는지 조금은 더 알 수 있을 것 같다.
죽음을 아는 것은 삶을 더욱 소중하고 아끼도록 만들어 주는 듯.
